In my opinion the dynamics of relationships have transformed in certain ways due to technology. I’m not saying that it isn’t great that technology allows us to be in touch with our loved ones and keep them posted throughout our everyday lives because it absolutely does. Lets be honest though, people definitely abuse the power of technology and hide behind text messages when they are too shy or lazy to speak in person.
I bet if you ask college students how many times they’ve been asked on a actual date, a face to face date that is revolved around talking and sharing a meal rather than a late night hangout after a party there would be a low numbe.
It just is so much more convenient for young adults to be attached to their phones and form relationships via text or social media. I think that the advances in technology and the fact that we are constantly surrounded by it contributes to a decrease in simple things like meeting people for coffee to catch up. To me an in person conversation goes a long way and helps strengthen a relationship. Not to mention speaking to friends or significant others over the Internet or text message leaves a lot of room for miscommunication and taking certain things the wrong way. It is important that we find the balance between using technology to strengthen relationships rather than relying on it to create them. I think that if we fail to do this we may be heading down the same road as Japan and create a “love industry”.
I found it extremely fitting that the title of the video was called the “Japanese Love Industry” because that exactly what their relationship culture is- an industry. They have made some of the things that come along with a formal relationship a commodity. It amazed me that these young women’s jobs were to cuddle with men and act as a stand in girlfriend and as soon as the time is up they are completely emotionally unattached. It makes me fear that individuals will become more and more selfish because they wont have anyone else’s emotions in mind and will only act in a way that accounts for their own self interest. If we continue to rely on technology we may be so “connected” all of the time that we become “disconnected” with the attributes of a relationship that are so important- like sacrificing your own time and not investing yourself in a relationship only when it is convenient for you. What I am really trying to express is the importance of the personal connection that seeing and speaking with someone is person can have for a relationship and should not be an “industry”, but rather a part of your life that falls into place rather than purchased.