Some in person FaceTime


In my opinion the dynamics of relationships have transformed in certain ways due to technology. I’m not saying that it isn’t great that technology allows us to be in touch with our loved ones and keep them posted throughout our everyday lives because it absolutely does. Lets be honest though, people definitely abuse the power of technology and hide behind text messages when they are too shy or lazy to speak in person.

I bet if you ask college students how many times they’ve been asked on a actual date, a face to face date that is revolved around talking and sharing a meal rather than a late night hangout after a party there would be a low numbe.

It just is so much more convenient for young adults to be attached to their phones and form relationships via text or social media. I think that the advances in technology and the fact that we are constantly surrounded by it contributes to a decrease in simple things like meeting people for coffee to catch up. To me an in person conversation goes a long way and helps strengthen a relationship. Not to mention speaking to friends or significant others over the Internet or text message leaves a lot of room for miscommunication and taking certain things the wrong way. It is important that we find the balance between using technology to strengthen relationships rather than relying on it to create them. I think that if we fail to do this we may be heading down the same road as Japan and create a “love industry”.

I found it extremely fitting that the title of the video was called the “Japanese Love Industry” because that exactly what their relationship culture is- an industry. They have made some of the things that come along with a formal relationship a commodity. It amazed me that these young women’s jobs were to cuddle with men and act as a stand in girlfriend and as soon as the time is up they are completely emotionally unattached. It makes me fear that individuals will become more and more selfish because they wont have anyone else’s emotions in mind and will only act in a way that accounts for their own self interest. If we continue to rely on technology we may be so “connected” all of the time that we become “disconnected” with the attributes of a relationship that are so important- like sacrificing your own time and not investing yourself in a relationship only when it is convenient for you. What I am really trying to express is the importance of the personal connection that seeing and speaking with someone is person can have for a relationship and should not be an “industry”, but rather a part of your life that falls into place rather than purchased.

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9 thoughts on “Some in person FaceTime”

  1. The description you gave of an aspect of a relationship: “sacrificing your own time and not investing yourself in a relationship only when it is convenient for you,” is one of the biggest keys in my opinion. Everything in our lives as become about convenience, and relationships, by nature, are not convenient. Because of this, we have begun to find ways to make them more convenient, which also happen to be at the expense of human interaction.

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      1. Being in a relationship means your actions affect another person other than yourself, and you have to act in ways that are not only focused on your self-interest but the interest of another person. It can absolutely be less convenient to be in a relationship than out of one, especially for someone focusing on other aspects of their life than finding a serious relationship.

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  2. Morgan, maybe edit your post and split it up in to chunks rather than one large text block? (or maybe in editing it, WordPress grouped it all together, sometimes it does that to me…)

    “speaking to friends or significant others over the Internet or text message leaves a lot of room for miscommunication and taking certain things the wrong way” is a great point. I always have to tell myself not to assume certain tones while read emails/texts because through these communication facets, tone of voice can never be distinguished by anyone except yourself. There’s a huge difference between a matter of fact “yup, ok.” and a passive aggressive “yup, ok.”

    Maybe this is why Facebook has the “what you’re feeling” addition to status updates now. Maybe all texts and emails should have a similar feature to avoid confusion and miscommunication?

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  3. “It is important that we find the balance between using technology to strengthen relationships rather than relying on it to create them.”

    Do you think it is possible to convince or teach overactive phone users to find the balance that you talk about? Or are there other forces at play that cause us to be attached/need the convenience?

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  4. I think that this balance is definitely be a difficult one to achieve. I think that we often feel so attached to our phones because of the pressure we get from others and feel guilty if we are not quick to respond…unless of course you are trying to prove a point by waiting a certain amount of time to respond. I think this is an example of how we have mastered this obsession with our phones and how the simplest responses can send a much stronger message.

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  5. The industry here: 35% of new marriages are couples who met on-line. 45% of them used dating sites. BUSINESSES. So about 13% of all new marriages were formed through a BUSINESS.

    Source: Findings, published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, put the percentage of married couples that now meet online at almost 35% — which gives what may be the first broad look at the overall percentage of new marriages that result from meeting online. About 45% of couples met on dating sites; the rest met on online social networks, chat rooms, instant messaging or other online forums.

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