The first time I saw this video, it seemed clear to me that the reason behind the decrease in meaningful relationships in Japan was the changing gender roles. I had the impression that the current bi-gender system that has been around for thousands of years had a purpose. For a long time I believed that the expression “opposites attract” also has a societal significance: that the social constructs of male-ness and female-ness were beneficial for society. In other words, two parents responsible for opposite roles in a family were a necessary part of a healthy family structure. While this may or may not be true, I believe I have come to find a deeper understanding of the economic/social drivers for changing gender roles, and it all revolves around one thing: We are becoming too busy for meaningful relationships. Continue reading Too Busy for Meaningful Relationships
Watching the Vice video made me wonder: will Millennials ever have normal relationships? We’re a generation of people attached to technology and engrained with the idea of following our dreams and changing the world. Thus, like the Japanese, where do relationships fit into that? Our answer:
So we’re doomed? That’s it? Wrong. Amiss our generation of hook up and online dating culture, there has been a decline in the divorce rate. This could suggest that because people are waiting to get married until they have achieved their highest priority dreams. This leads to getting married at a more mature age which would mean those entering marriage would have thought about the meaning and their spouse a bit more than they would have at a younger age. Such a statistic could also suggest that the changes in gender roles have made marriage easier. For example, it is now socially acceptable for men to be the stay at home parent or the parent with a career that can revolve around child raising. It’s no longer a fight of inequality of roles but simply what each person in the relationship would rather do. Arguably this leads to seeing each other as equals thus less fights thus less divorce.
In conclusion, everyone relax a bit. The world isn’t completely engulfed in commodity sex, cuddles and conversation. Your Allie and Noah story could still happen (I just wouldn’t necessarily suggest heading to Japan to find it…). Do what your parents told you and chase your dreams, your significant other will come along eventually and now there’s a better chance of you two being together forever.