Tag Archives: relationships

Jason DeRulo Talks Dirty to Me

I actually got to meet Jason DeRulo after the concert last week– we talked ethics for a hot sec.

Do you think your goal as an artist is to be the most profitable tour or to express yourself and bring the most joy to your fans? Continue reading Jason DeRulo Talks Dirty to Me

Money apparently CAN buy you happiness

The Vice Guide to the Japanese love industry revealed Japan as a country where both time using electronics and time spent furthering one’s career has begun to trump time spent on human relationships, and where people are willing to commoditize absolutely anything. The combination of these two traits leads to a culture where it is plausible to have a thriving industry of recreational love and affection.  Do I think these types of relationships are better than relationships of the past? Personally, no, but at the same time how can one deny the influences mass consumers.

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In Japan, stock prices for hugs went up $10 yesterday…

When, I started playing the Vice video, my roommate way dropping by to say hi and missed the first minute. He then asked me to replay it, so we watched it together. A variety of very confused looks, bursts of laughter which were more or less nervous and the statement “this was one of the most messed up things I’ve seen in my life” followed. Continue reading In Japan, stock prices for hugs went up $10 yesterday…

Life in the Fast Lane: A Working Woman Don’t Need No Man

I’m not sure that I’ll ever be okay with paying a stranger to gaze deeply into my eyes.

Can you purchase intimacy?  What are patrons of a cuddle cafes or host clubs really expecting out of their visits?

It’s said that prostitution is ‘the world’s oldest profession’ but historically has been associate with exclusively physical pleasure, not emotional intimacy. Emotional connections might even be discouraged. How can non-physical desires be commodified and still believable?  The cuddle cafe worker admits she has no emotional attachment to her clients, yet she makes her living by convincing them otherwise. I am shocked by the ease that emotional intimacy can be ‘faked’. Intimacy doesn’t sound congruous with stranger.

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Trending Downward

Like many of my peers, I was shocked by some of what I saw in the video. I continually thought back to our discussions of truth/journalism/art and considered how prevalent this “love industry” really is in Japan. The video made it seem as if everyone in Japan prefers being single over being in any sort of relationship. Continue reading Trending Downward

Too Busy for Meaningful Relationships

The first time I saw this video, it seemed clear to me that the reason behind the decrease in meaningful relationships in Japan was the changing gender roles. I had the impression that the current bi-gender system that has been around for thousands of years had a purpose. For a long time I believed that the expression “opposites attract” also has a societal significance: that the social constructs of male-ness and female-ness were beneficial for society. In other words, two parents responsible for opposite roles in a family were a necessary part of a healthy family structure. While this may or may not be true, I believe I have come to find a deeper understanding of the economic/social drivers for changing gender roles, and it all revolves around one thing: We are becoming too busy for meaningful relationships.  Continue reading Too Busy for Meaningful Relationships

The Role of Technology in Relationships

First off, I was definitely disturbed by what I saw in Ryan Duffy’s The Japanese Love Industry video. The contents were bizarre and eye opening for sure, but I think the video also needs to be taken with a grain of salt. Japan’s culture is very different than ours. Continue reading The Role of Technology in Relationships

Hi, What’s your name?

What happened to the days of talking on the phone for hours when you meet someone? What happen to the butterfly feelings you get after being asked on your first date? “Dating” means different things to different people, especially across generations. Two people in an intimate relationship is dating. Today’s dating is defined as a hook up and no longer as courtship.

Online dating sites such as Tindr, Plenty of Fish (POF), and Zoosk have become very popular. I think that these sites take the spice out of meeting someone; however, it takes the sting out of rejection. Just like technology being at our fingertips, we want what we want now so it is easy to see how dating sites have become an “in” thing. No chasing…just hey I’m trying to see you. Which takes us back to the question of how human interaction is changing.

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The Japanese video showed a society that I can see happening in the United States. Portions of what was shown in the video are already happening in America. We have strip clubs, sex toys, sex trafficking and sex slaves so why not present the atmosphere of just being able to enjoy yourself without the worries of commitment. In the video, it showed the way relationships are now viewed as a commodity.

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While our lives are being enriched with technology, our relationships are lacking the intimacy it once had. Since it is pros and cons to technology and human interaction, we have to acknowledge the fine line between the two and determine the best way for them to not hinder our relationships. Technology has made it to where a person can interact with anyone globally. Technology has aIso turned I love you into ILU. Texting within 140 characters have broken down the social interaction to include how people communicate.

As technology involves, it causes challenges with the way we interact with one another. Is that  really true? Probably not… we have to be mindful that in some cultures, marriage is just a business transaction between families so how can we define the true meaning of human interaction.

In my opinion, with our lives being fast paced and having technology at our fingertips, it is easy to see how the dynamics of human  interaction has changed and online dating and hook ups have become so popular. We are just too busy

 

The American Dream

american-dreamWhat is the American dream? The white picket fence, nice house, two splendid children (a boy and a girl), and a wonderfully domestic wife to come home to. This is the ideal image that people have strived after for decades, but does it still apply to U.S. society today? Continue reading The American Dream

A World Without Love?

I can’t decide what’s more unsettling, the demand for snuggling or the actual occupation of a professional snuggler. After watching Vice’s short segment, The Japanese Love Industry, I realized how immediate all of the dystopian novels I read in AP Literature junior year of high school are. Sure, I disagree with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to some extent, but maybe societies are evolving to a future where “self-esteem” is valued before “love and belonging”.  Or maybe the Millennials hierarchy of needs does not even include “love”. Continue reading A World Without Love?